“A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.” Proverbs 19:11 (NIV)
Quite a while back, the Lord lead Shellie and I to seek to be unoffendable! He showed us that offense is a form of unforgiveness and is literally a backdoor for the enemy to operate in one’s life (see Matthew 18:21-35, Mark 11:25-26). Jesus said that those who do not forgive will be handed over to the torturers! That’s what happens when we choice to hold onto offense! Sadly, there are many believers who have embraced this spirit of offense in their life!
I’m not saying we never feel offended, but when we do, we come back to the Lord and ask Him to show us what are we responding to. We invite the Holy Spirit to search our hearts. Usually it is something in us that needs to be dealt with such as pride, jealousy, selfishness, etc. Operating from the spirit of offense is the opposite of operating in the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). When someone is looking through the eyes of offense they have lost their love for others (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
In our day where it seems our culture is living in a constant state of offense, we must do everything we can to not allow ourselves to be sucked into its undertow! Ask the Lord to show you any offensive way or attitude in you (Psalm 139:23-24), and respond with asking for forgiveness (both to God and if appropriate, others). God has called us to the ministry of reconciliation (2 Corinthians 5:18), which requires us to look past offenses. The Body of Christ is meant to be known by our love! Pray for others you know who have been drawn into this deadly undertow of offense. And pray that God would pour out a grace for forgiveness in our city to put away every place where people have been offended, starting in the church!